Recently the Apex court of the country has held that pre marital sex is not a crime at all. If two people want to live together there is no law to hold it as a crime. Now comes the question as to what is crime? Then obviously the answer lies that if anything done against the established laws of the land then that is crime. Pre marital sex is a reality of the new generation. Talking about sex is no more hindered as apologetic. Sex is a part of our life and it is the choice of an individual to do it when one wishes to. Yes lawfully speaking sex before marriage is not a crime at all but it is, in the face of morality.
Morality can be defined in many ways altogether. Some says it’s the right thing to do, or not to do and things against our conscious. The fact is that morality is just an excuse just the way to groom your ward the way one wishes to. We made the society, and in turn the society made the code of ethics. Morality is hypocritical. It is fine if a man who lost his wife is married again but the society would shy away with the thought of remarrying of a widow. It is hypocritical to believe in god but still ignore love between people of the same sex. Indian morality is of course a bunch of hypocrites.
Personally speaking I am not the one who believes in sex before marriage, but that has nothing to do with the fact of ethics. I just feel that one should be a one man women.
Sex is something private and should not be questioned. As adults we just need to remember the consequences of the steps we take and that’s all. Anything done with the feeling of love and mutual trust passes the test of morality. We just need to perhaps look inside ourselves and ask if its right or wrong, ask ourselves and not the society. It is a presumed thought that if a girl practices sex before being married then she is not a good girl, even if she is standing on her feet, but the same if applied to a boy the common prognosis applies that after all ‘he is a boy.’ A boy somehow doest has to pass the morality test it’s always the girl, right from the time of sita’s Agnipariksha.
So now what is supreme is it love or ethics? It’s the individual who triumphs. No society or the legislature needs to transcript what is ethical and what is not. It is a personal choice and not the choice of the society. One needs to also realize that with the new generation even the society changes. Now love marriages are not frowned upon or even the birth of a girl. And soon the ethics would change as well since the catalyst is very much the present generation.
